The STEADFAST Process

Taking the first step...
What's the first step? 

Ask yourself: "Who am I ? What am I up to? What do I want to be up to while living life on Earth? 

 
If you can confront this question without shying away (and even if you do resist at first but go back) if you truly wait for answer, then you've taken the first step. 

The STEADFAST Process starts here, with self-reflection. Carve out time to ask yourself inquisitive questions; be willing to wait for the answers to come in their own time. All the while keep bringing your attention back to the questions, so that you are pursuing them with all your heart:

Who am I? Where am I? What am I doing in my life that has brought me to this point? Where do I want to go? Who do I want to be? 

And then in regards to STEADFAST:

What do I expect to get out of life consulting? What does an ideal life consulting relationship look like? If I were to share this vision and be transparent with a life consultant what does that provide? What is the impact I want life consulting to have? How do I like to be held accountable when it comes to my commitments? Where could I stretch? How can I support myself to stay steadfast? What do I expect the outcome to be? And how do I deal with expectations currently? What would I like life to look like in the future?

Allow yourself to hear the answers, and whatever they are, be ready to bring them to the table. 

Yes, it's a blend of coaching and consulting, and there's a process...the STEADFAST Process.

To begin with, I see you as a naturally creative, wise, resourceful, and whole. You've got it all inside you. I'm just here to help bring it out so you can see this value... and more. 

Most of the time I'm in the coaching role, and as a consultant, there will be moments where I offer guidance, based on training, research and experience.

As your life coach I support you to step into the parts of you that you are longing for, maybe never even acknowledged, to become more fully you. When you understand yourself better, you are able to move yourself where you'd like to go. Whether that be towards a new job, or entering a relationship, you will be clear on who you want to be, what your values are, and what is most important to you as you go forward.

In the sessions together you bring your own topic. This is great. If there is anything that you are blocked by, we work co-actively together, exploring and experiencing alternative ways of being and doing by trying on new perspectives, new options. Once you choose a new perspective, the process of transformation begins.

The subtle and often times not so subtle movement of stepping into becoming something new can deepen your experience and broaden your learning. The impact of often automatically propels you forwards. If it doesn't then it's time for self-effort.

Stepping into a new way of being, creates "transformation of being" and opens your mind to more possibilities. It can effect the choices you make or don't make. For instance, from a new viewpoint, you can choose to be "a calm and compassionate person" at work for instance, vs. "high-stress intensely giving orders person", you can generate as of yet, unthought of options for how to bring about a calm environment. You now have a sense of  excitement and potential. You are able to invest with a renewed sense of vigor in your options because they are connected directly to your new way of being. They are related to you, and intrinsically move you into action. You go for it and give it your best shot.

Another aspect that is really important to the STEADFAST Process, is not only the time together during the sessions but the time in between. This will be your "homework" time (which often feels like play), locking in the learning. This is where you self-coach and take the lead in your life. Lead by example...who is watching? You. 

What does that look like- to "self coach"?

With steadfastness (like an inner pillar) you take action on your commitments to yourself. For example, "I commit to going to bed before 10am, to support my well-being during the week." By doing this, you fulfill your promise to yourself. By following through on this, not only do you achieve the goal itself and get more energy for your day,  but you get a bonus. You get to feel good about keeping the promise. This builds confidence and trust within yourself. And, if you aren't able to do this, we look and see what's getting in the way. If you allow this process to be a process of growth; without judgement, but with compassion, and re-commit or re-target to other options it will reinforce your inner wisdom and provide you with the best support in reaching your goals. 

This is only one of many ways to integrate a new way of being into your life. It's not easy, but it's worth it. 

You have the ability to become a champion of consciousness and wake up to the fact that you have autonomy. You have the choice to lead your life how you choose. This is the road to becoming who and what you have always wanted. 

The STEADFAST Process itself could last from 5-6 months (more or less), depending on the individual's commitment and what they agree to with their Life Consultant. I recommend in the beginning to commit to 8 sessions weekly, then 4 sessions every other week, (total 12 one hour sessions) in order to build a structure of support, trust, and steadfastness in order to produce results. 

The STEADFAST Process description is to be used as a guideline, not hard and fast rules. It's an alchemical process and it should be challenging but natural.

Commitment is key!
It's something you commit to and something that you allow to take place, all within the realm of the co-active relationship. "Co-Activity" shows up when both people are being equally active in the partnership between client and consultant." 

Here's the "key" takeaways on your own personal "key ring" that you may already have or will soon acquire, and at some point need: 

• investing trust within yourself 
• self effort 
• partnership  
• honoring your personal values 
• doing the internal homework 
• doing the external homework 
• taking a stand into a new way of being and doing to get through old road blocks  
• be willing to silence the inner critics 
• allowing your innate healthy, wise, strong leader to guide you
• commitment to persevere 
• re-targeting when necessary with steadfastness towards your intended goals 
• recognizing freedom of choice (which, as a side effect, brings great joy!)

All of these keys are useful and hold the potential to open up doors to a life where you wake up feeling  fulfilled and excited to live. 

However for life to truly flourish, they must be renewed daily with an investment of time and energy by you. 

And to bottom line it, to do the best you can!