Whatever change you desire to make, do it with STEADFAST commitment.
Whatever change you desire to make, do it with STEADFAST commitment.
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Taking the first step...
What's the first step?
Ask yourself: "Who am I ? What am I up to? What do I want to be up to while living life on Earth?
If you can confront this question without shying away (and even if you do resist at first but go back) if you truly wait for answer, then you've taken the first step.
The STEADFAST Process starts here, with self-reflection. Carve out time to ask yourself inquisitive questions; be willing to wait for the answers to come in their own time. All the while keep bringing your attention back to the questions, so that you are pursuing them with all your heart:
Who am I? Where am I? What am I doing in my life that has brought me to this point? Where do I want to go? Who do I want to be?
And then in regards to STEADFAST:
What do I expect to get out of life consulting? What does an ideal life consulting relationship look like? If I were to share this vision and be transparent with a life consultant what does that provide? What is the impact I want life consulting to have? How do I like to be held accountable when it comes to my commitments? Where could I stretch? How can I support myself to stay steadfast? What do I expect the outcome to be? And how do I deal with expectations currently? What would I like life to look like in the future?
Allow yourself to hear the answers, and whatever they are, be ready to bring them to the table.
Yes, it's a blend of coaching and consulting, and there's a process...the STEADFAST Process.
To begin with, I see you as a naturally creative, wise, resourceful, and whole. You've got it all inside you. I'm just here to help bring it out so you can see this value... and more.
Most of the time I'm in the coaching role, and as a consultant, there will be moments where I offer guidance, based on training, research and experience.
As your life coach I support you to step into the parts of you that you are longing for, maybe never even acknowledged, to become more fully you. When you understand yourself better, you are able to move yourself where you'd like to go. Whether that be towards a new job, or entering a relationship, you will be clear on who you want to be, what your values are, and what is most important to you as you go forward.
In the sessions together you bring your own topic. This is great. If there is anything that you are blocked by, we work co-actively together, exploring and experiencing alternative ways of being and doing by trying on new perspectives, new options. Once you choose a new perspective, the process of transformation begins.
The subtle and often times not so subtle movement of stepping into becoming something new can deepen your experience and broaden your learning. The impact of often automatically propels you forwards. If it doesn't then it's time for self-effort.
Stepping into a new way of being, creates "transformation of being" and opens your mind to more possibilities. It can effect the choices you make or don't make. For instance, from a new viewpoint, you can choose to be "a calm and compassionate person" at work for instance, vs. "high-stress intensely giving orders person", you can generate as of yet, unthought of options for how to bring about a calm environment. You now have a sense of excitement and potential. You are able to invest with a renewed sense of vigor in your options because they are connected directly to your new way of being. They are related to you, and intrinsically move you into action. You go for it and give it your best shot.
Another aspect that is really important to the STEADFAST Process, is not only the time together during the sessions but the time in between. This will be your "homework" time (which often feels like play), locking in the learning. This is where you self-coach and take the lead in your life. Lead by example...who is watching? You.
What does that look like- to "self coach"?
With steadfastness (like an inner pillar) you take action on your commitments to yourself. For example, "I commit to going to bed before 10am, to support my well-being during the week." By doing this, you fulfill your promise to yourself. By following through on this, not only do you achieve the goal itself and get more energy for your day, but you get a bonus. You get to feel good about keeping the promise. This builds confidence and trust within yourself. And, if you aren't able to do this, we look and see what's getting in the way. If you allow this process to be a process of growth; without judgement, but with compassion, and re-commit or re-target to other options it will reinforce your inner wisdom and provide you with the best support in reaching your goals.
This is only one of many ways to integrate a new way of being into your life. It's not easy, but it's worth it.
You have the ability to become a champion of consciousness and wake up to the fact that you have autonomy. You have the choice to lead your life how you choose. This is the road to becoming who and what you have always wanted.
The STEADFAST Process itself could last from 5-6 months (more or less), depending on the individual's commitment and what they agree to with their Life Consultant. I recommend in the beginning to commit to 8 sessions weekly, then 4 sessions every other week, (total 12 one hour sessions) in order to build a structure of support, trust, and steadfastness in order to produce results.
The STEADFAST Process description is to be used as a guideline, not hard and fast rules. It's an alchemical process and it should be challenging but natural.
Commitment is key!
It's something you commit to and something that you allow to take place, all within the realm of the co-active relationship. "Co-Activity" shows up when both people are being equally active in the partnership between client and consultant."
Here's the "key" takeaways on your own personal "key ring" that you may already have or will soon acquire, and at some point need:
All of these keys are useful and hold the potential to open up doors to a life where you wake up feeling fulfilled and excited to live.
However for life to truly flourish, they must be renewed daily with an investment of time and energy by you.
And to bottom line it, to do the best you can!
Free "Meet and Greet"
Let's meet each other. We can sit down by ZOOM and have a chat. It's a good time to share what's going on for you and to ask questions.
STEP 1: Creative Exploration
This is the initial consultation; a more in-depth exploration. Let's find out what lights up your life.
Let's learn about YOU. We will do an intake of what life is like for you now and where you would like to go, and how we as co-active partners can work together to get you there.
STEP 2: Contemplative Journey
What do you like about where you are? What don't you like? What would a different view of your world look like? These are just a few examples of what we can explore. Let's keep the conversation alive. What is truly important to you?
STEP 3: What's Going On
It's time to dig deep and explore what's really going on in that beautiful interior of yours; to discover what you truly want and what's blocking you from going about getting it.
STEP 4: Challenging Default Modes
We all have them, those pesky thoughts that keep coming around, familiar patterns of thinking- outdated mindsets from our past. We see them repeat and play out again and again in our lives, creating chaos. Like a yo-yo diet, the habits come back again.To get autonomy back into our life challenge the status quo, make a new choice and break free from default modes.
STEP 5: True North
You are grounded by your inner guidance, your internal compass, the north star, by listening to your own inherent wisdom. Its light shines like the brightest star within you, to illuminate the unknown path ahead. As you continue outward bound into the unknown, you can always count on this strong sense of what is right for you. Your own True North.
STEP 6: In Truth We Grow
Building trust, working on relationship to Self and Others, we are in this together as we voyage on... the doubts in your mind have become insignificant as a new way of being takes charge.
STEP 7: Hand In Hand
It's time to put collaboration into action and trust in the co-active process. Brainstorming and speaking truthfully, conferring without hesitation, we move together as you lead this journey towards the life you envision. I'll be there to ask the powerful questions and offer insight.
STEP 8: Growing Good Ideas
This is the time to let your good ideas shine. They have been set aside too long. Where can you see yourself in 5 years? What would you like to create as a vision for your future. It's time to bring it out into the light of day and give it life. It's now. It's time.
STEP 9: Invest In Your Own Growth
Tend to the garden of your life. Care for all things related to you and your well-being. This is the time to weed out any inner critics and discover a way or a will to keep them from tromping on your new growth. With a feverish passion tend to your new ideas so that they may flourish.
STEP 10: Trailblazer
You trust yourself. You have gained tools and the confidence to use them. Now it's time to really test yourself - become a TRAILBLAZER. Diving deep with commitment, for as long as it takes, being accountable and staying steadfast. It's time to go for it- what you really want!
STEP 11: Field Of Reality
You have dreams, now they have grown into reality. You are leading the way. I am with you every step as your witness; continuing to champion you, and empower you. You are in forward motion all the while fortifying your foundation. This leads to the manifestation and completion of your visions.
You have the keys you need to a fulfilling life and you are in the driver's seat. Going where you want to go and being present to possibilities that exist in the moment. Being at choice, you experience a sense of freedom within your new reality.
Celebration Manifestation
Let's celebrate the story of YOU and your success! If there's more road to travel, let's do it!
Go Your Own Way
This is the after party party, what else do you want to do? It's up to you, where do you want to go? It's 100% your choice! Pick a focus and lets explore.
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